Nervous energy is a messenger, not a verdict. Sometimes the message is ‘go toward this.’ You're scared because it matters to you. And sometimes the message is 'get out — this isn't serving you.' You're anxious because the situation is toxic. Learning to tell the difference? That's everything.

Have you ever met someone who sounds unsure of even the most basic facts? “Hi, I’m Ben? I’m from Chicago? I’m in cancer research?” There’s a word for this kind of speech pattern – it’s called upspeak. Upspeak is very common, so if you find yourself relating to Ben, you are not alone!

Whoever thought up the word “networking” should give me a call, because I have some questions for them. Like, “Why?” And, “Really?” I can't think of anything less inspiring or motivating than the word “networking.”

Knowing what you don't want is helpful, but knowing what you want is a game changer.